Scary thoughts

I just posted this on my survivor website (after a hiatus, I felt drawn to return), and thought I'd risk posting it here.

For friends and family to read this concerns me; I don't want to unnecessarily freak anyone out. The odds are, likely, in my favor that I'm worrying over "nothing." My oncologist has good reason to believe that what I'm worried about is not the case, and I trust her opinions.

But, annually, I have to go for a series of scans. As Thursday approaches, I am a bundle of nerves and emotion. Actually, just trying to identify what those emotions are, to describe them here on my blog, gives me a sudden urge to throw up. I'm pretty sure that I've over-used the word "terrified" on this blog, but it's all I can come up with. My approaching scan terrifies me.

I hate that I'm saying that. I hate that I have not rounded some corner from which I can look back, glowing with wisdom, to inspire those who are behind me in this journey. I'm in a position to inspire women through my work on the 3-Day, the Race for the Cure, and the local Komen office, as well as through Genentech, and I've spent a good deal of the last week telling listeners on the radio how well I feel and how glad I am to have this behind me. MOST of the time, that's true. My life is a testament to how well I feel. But today I find myself, literally, quaking with fear.

So here's the post I wrote to my survivor "friends" on the internet. They have applauded my honesty, and this gives me courage. I think it's important to be honest here, too, despite my best desire to be 100% PollyAnna and to cure myself through positive thinking (ha!).

To those of you who are following behind me, know that this is only part of the truth. Today's fear is palpable (just like a lump...did I really just use that word?!) but hopefully the relief will be just as strong, and then I will be ready to fight for the masses again.
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I have not had an MRI in two years, since my initial diagnosis. I have been in recon for a year, so we put it off, and now it's time.

I have a number of small lumps. Tiny, sand-like ones in my incision on the healthy side, and a larger (inch?) one also on the healthy side. We (oncologist and I) suspect that the tiny sand-like ones are sutures that have scar tissue around them, and that the larger one is the edge of the implant. They're relatively new; I only did my implant exchange on Mar 2 and they're since then. I've had regular clinical exams, and my tumor markers are on the low side of normal with a downward trend.

But I won't know that I'm okay until we get it checked out.

I'm scared. My first MRI was a horrible experience...how can anyone enjoy that cold, loud, claustrophobic tube? And knowing that you are there to Look For Cancer? It's creepy, surreal, and awful.I have five appointments on Thursday: oncologist, Herceptin, MRI, MUGA, and physical therapy. I haven't had a day like that in a long time and being in Cancerland that long is freaking me out. Worrying about the lumps is freaking me out.

I haven't felt this scared in a while. I know that it's normal, and that most people freak out for their yearly scans. Knowing that doesn't make it easier, even though it should.I will be asking for an Ativan or equivalent at my onc meeting. I can't go from 8:40am (first appointment) until 4:45pm (end of last appointment) in Cancerland without some help. I can not lie in that tube without screaming without a little help. I'm worried that I will get even a false positive - not unlikely - and that I will lose my mind. I'm worried that I will re-experience my first MRI and hear "Sorry but yes you have cancer and it's more than we thought and probably in the nodes" and that I will have to face another year of torture when I'm most trying to put it all behind me. I am Freaking OUT!

Where's my inner PollyAnna? I need her right now and she's deserting me?!This weekend is Race for the Cure and I'm rolling out I AM THE CURE in Seattle at that program. I have a fundraiser tomorrow night for the 3-Day. I have a survivor support group next week. I'm training again (sciatic appears healed) and ran 50 minutes today for the first time in weeks. I spent part of the day at the beach with my daughter. So why am I doing this to myself? I'm channeling my energy in positive ways but inside I'm a mess.

I'm in a position through my work with Komen to "inspire" women. I've been doing radio and newspaper interviews, and I'm becoming a local voice for Komen. So why, today, do I feel like a sham? I feel like I'm totally faking it and that if anybody knew what I was really thinking I'd scare them instead of inspiring them.

So, ladies, I'm throwing it out to you. Can someone please talk me down? Or remind me that, most likely, by the end of the day on Thursday I will know that things are okay?